Something I never wanted to be was divorced. I remember getting married and telling my husband that the “D” word wasn’t an option. Fast forward 27 years later and divorce was the last resort and only healthy option left. I learned many lessons along the four years of discovery and two year journey of divorce and I’m going to share them with you. Whether you are in the beginning stages of divorce, happily married or even single, some of these lessons may even help you! Some of the simplest of lessons which may seem obvious to some, might be new news to others. My heart is to not let the pain and hurt be wasted and instead let my story and lessons help just one who might need to know one tidbit of information and give hope. Blessings friends!
Lesson #1: If facing a potential divorce, look for an attorney that specializes in divorce. If you have kids, find one that specializes in child custody. This sounds like a no brainer but I didn’t know. Growing up I was never around attorneys or needed one. My family didn’t sue anyone and while I knew there were different kinds of attorneys, I didn’t realize the need to find one who has expertise in divorce. I remember walking into my first attorney’s office and saying, “This is going to be your easiest case. We are on the same page and we just need to split things.” He was a general attorney and divorce wasn’t his bread and butter. I don’t believe every case goes like mine and a very amicable divorce is possible. Some are able to use a general attorney with great success. What I didn’t know was that in a few months, I would need the expertise of a divorce attorney. I just didn’t know it at first. I had four attorneys in two years and learned the value of someone who knows all the law surrounding your potential circumstances.
I hope you never need an attorney. I hope I don’t have to need one again either. But if you do, interview a few, ask for recommendations and choose one who has knowledge in your area of need. There was a lot of stigma around getting a divorce for me and having to hire an attorney. We will talk sometime about breaking down the shame divorce brings to some and stigma that surrounds it. That is not from God and He wants us to live free indeed. #divorce#christianity#hope#strongwomen#faith#faithoverfear#marriage#thedivorcedmarriagechampion#divorceattorney